Courtney Sender at Harvard Book Store


In Other Lifetimes All I’ve Lost Comes Back to Me

in conversation with CHRISTINE GROSS-LOH


March 3, 2023
7:00 PM ET


Harvard Book Store
1256 Massachusetts Ave., Cambridge, MA 02138


This event is free; no tickets are required.

Harvard Book Store welcomes COURTNEY SENDER—writer whose essays have appeared in The New York Times' Modern Love and graduate of Harvard Divinity School—for a discussion of her first book In Other Lifetimes All I've Lost Comes Back to Me. She will be joined in conversation by CHRISTINE GROSS-LOH—author of the bestseller The Path: What Chinese Philosophers Can Teach Us About the Good Life.

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About In Other Lifetimes All I've Lost Comes Back to Me

Populated with lovers who leave and return, with ghosts of the Holocaust and messages from the dead, Courtney Sender’s debut collection speaks in a singular new voice about the longings and loneliness of contemporary love. The world of these fourteen interlocking stories is fiercely real but suffused with magic and myth, dark wit, and distinct humor. Here, ancient loss works its way deep into the psyche of modern characters, stirring their unrelenting lust for life.

In “To Do With the Body,” the Museum of Period Clothes becomes the perfect setting for a bloody crime. In “Lilith in God’s Hands,” Adam’s first wife has an affair in the Garden of Eden. And in the title story, a woman spends her life waiting for any of the men who have left her to come back, only to find them all at her doorstep at once.

For readers of Elena Ferrante, Nicole Krauss, and Carmen Maria Machado, and for anyone who has known love and loneliness, In Other Lifetimes All I’ve Lost Comes Back to Me is a wise and sensual collection of old hauntings, new longings, and unexpected returns, with a finale that is a rousing call to the strength we each have, together or alone.

Praise for In Other Lifetimes All I’ve Lost Comes Back to Me

“Sender matches the light topic of youthful lost love with the extreme heft of the Holocaust . . . and comes up with a miraculous balance between the personal and the universal.” —Ann Patchett, author of The Dutch House

“Courtney Sender’s stories are fierce and tender, exploring the urgency of desire, the restlessness of longing, and the way that both trauma and the will to survive can be a haunting inheritance. Sender moves gracefully between the surreal and the everyday, capturing the way romantic love can be at once impossibly strange and mercifully familiar.” —Danielle Evans, author of The Office of Historical Corrections

“Wholly original, lyrical, fierce, these stories confound expectations at every turn. Courtney Sender writes about passion and loneliness, faith and longing, heaven and hell with a clear eye and a compassionate wit. This collection expands and celebrates, even as it sometimes upends, what it means to tell a love story.” —Alice McDermott, author of The Ninth Hour

Christine Gross-Loh
Christine Gross-Loh

Christine Gross-Loh

Christine Gross-Loh’s books include Parenting Without Borders: Surprising Things Parents Around the World Can Teach Us as well as the bestseller The Path: What Chinese Philosophers Can Teach Us About the Good Life. In addition to creative nonfiction she has written on history, education, philosophy, and global parenting and her work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Atlantic, and The Guardian, among others. She has a Ph.D. from Harvard University in East Asian history.

Courtney Sender
Courtney Sender

Courtney Sender

Courtney Sender's essays have appeared in The New York Times' Modern Love and The Atlantic. Her fiction appears in the Spring 2023 Ploughshares, as well as in AGNI, The Kenyon Review, American Short Fiction, and many others. A Yaddo and MacDowell fellow, Courtney has taught fiction at GrubStreet and Tufts, and was the 2019-20 George Benett Fellow Writer-in-Residence at Phillips Exeter Academy. She is also staff writer for iHeartRadio's #1-charting podcast Noble Blood. She holds an MFA in fiction from the Johns Hopkins Writing Seminars, an MTS from Harvard Divinity School, and a B.A. in English from Yale. In Other Lifetimes All I've Lost Comes Back to Me (WVU Press 2023) is her first book.

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